I suppose it HAD to happen someday: with all the major advances in psychology and behavioral science in the past decade, I knew that a REAL doctor was going to come along one day and figure out how to seduce a woman with methods that would be precise, scientific and tested.
And now it’s happened.
Psychologist Dr. David Tan has become a minor celebrity in Asia, where he was actually pushed out of a prominent teaching position at a top university for conducting social-sexual research that was deemed too controversial. You see, Dr. Tan’s research into the question of “what makes a woman want to sleep with a man?…” happened to offend too many of his stuffy academic peers, and they waged a successful protest for his removal.
But WE love this guy don’t we?… a guy who aims to answer those truly great life questions such as, “How do I get that hot bitch over there interested in boffing me?…” — questions that are genuinely important for the enrichment of our lives. 😉
Here’s a post I ran across by Genevieve Mullins that I thought made some good points about the sorts of things that turn women on. I feel it’s always good to get a woman’s perspective when it comes to seduction and dating tips, especially a cute one like her.
This is, after all, about getting inside their heads, right? Here’s a few interesting quotes that I pulled:
On the power of whispering:
“Whether it’s done in bed or while we’re out in public, a quiet whisper or breathing a little too close to the inside of my ear turns me on almost no matter who I’m speaking to – it’s quite disturbing, actually…”
About holding sway in your relationship with her:
“Don’t let me boss you around too much. I still like to be the boss in every other facet of my life, but not so much in a relationship. It’s the guy who I can’t exactly conquer who holds on to my line of interest and attention…”
Nowadays, women are beginning to expect more creativity from men regarding their skills at dating…
There’s no doubt that those men who can deliver the psychological goods possess a definitive edge nowadays. One serious dating landmine that I think you may want to avoid is pressing forward straight into a heavily romantic date too soon, especially as a FIRST date.
Romantic dates staged too soon in the “feeling out” process can quickly get out of control and devolve into ugly pissing contests just as easily as they can a roll in the sack… and often due to some minor issue that should’ve never come up in the first place if the two of you weren’t so intent on interrogating and testing one another.
That’s because these pre-first-sex dates can be too heavy on the talking and too light on the connecting. Too much self-revelation right out of the gate cancels out most of the fantasy elements that likely got her interested in you in the FIRST place — so don’t be too anxious to shed your cloak of mystery and get things grounded in reality right away. People do this because they’ve been burned before and don’t trust anyone, and so they want to strip away all pretenses ASAP and find out what they’re dealing with (another loser?… another crazy bitch?…) before they invest too much time and hope into another person who turns out to be not what they originally seemed.
Can ‘Fifty Shades of Grey’ help you Meet Women?
Among all the zillions of books on Amazon.com, what do you think is the top selling category? Sports? Cookbooks? Fiction by established writers like Stephen King or James Patterson? I was hoping at one time that it would be books about picking up girls 😉 but it turns out that I was completely wrong…
The answer: it’s a class of books known as Literotica (aka, erotic fiction). But here’s the thing, it’s mostly women who are buying this stuff. According to the rather amazing sales data, there are about as many women buying these sex-packed stories as there are men subscribing to porno websites!
That’s right, every year hundreds of millions of women devour truckloads of literotica – I’ve heard estimates that the highly popular ‘Fifty Shades of Grey’ trilogy alone is responsible for several thousand kindle downloads, a DAY!
What’s surprising about all this is that Literotica itself is nothing new and has basically been around since the 60’s. It’s the sort of titillating crap they used to publish in “Penthouse Letters” or “Variations”. You know, those little mini-magazines full of sexy short stories that were supposedly re-printed submissions mailed in from horny readers all around the world? I’m sure the vast majority of them were churned out in assembly-line fashion by bleary-eyed staff writers who were all working from a standardized plot structure.
And lately, this plot structure has become the subject of much interest in the PUA community.
I found this vid poking around on YT and thought you might grab a few insights from it. I summarized most of Jenna’s core points below. I agree with the first four items as being noble characteristics to strive for in any sort of relationship — the rest I think are more personal gripes based on her own bad experiences with guys, but she does make a few good points nonetheless. See what you think.
by Jenna Anne
Crib Notes Summary:
Demonstrate real confidence in yourself, NOT arrogance (a.k.a. fake confidence)…
Don’t take yourself too seriously, be light-hearted and easy-going…
Don’t make “throw away promises” that you don’t intend to keep just to get some immediate result from her (sex, shut the hell up, etc.). Follow through with all your promises, or don’t make them in the first place…
Do those little “under the radar” things that tickle her by making her seem like she’s your girl…
Tease her lightly and always in good humor…
Here at the High Status Male, we like to kick around ideas that we hope can make us more attractive to women.
Women are of course the great and universal Mystery… Their frivolous behaviors have vexed men throughout the Ages – driving them to commit acts of war, suicide and even murder.
And that was when they weren’t otherwise making us insanely horny, (or just plain insane!)
Ten Signs She’s Interested
Here’s a really solid vid I found from a cute girl who calls herself “Hot Alpha Female”. She has some excellent advice about sharpening your social recognition skills so that you can “read” a girl that you’re working for signs of return interest. This sounds like it should be obvious but there are a lot of things to watch for, and I summarized a lot of it in the training highlights below to give you a nice little cheat sheet,
Clubs can be hard on the ego, they are not really the “normal world” where regular social techniques are all that effective…
And that’s because everybody has their eyes on the top 10% of hot bodies (both men and women) and everyone else looks diminished and low quality in their shadow. This makes it damn hard to get a “hearing” from women, so it’s a tough environment that requires a thick skin for rejection. That’s because girls who would otherwise pick up a flirt and play around for awhile with any guy like yourself will reject you pretty quickly instead, especially if it’s obvious to them that you don’t have a lot of “club mojo” or aren’t a regular player in that environment.
For instance, if you happen to have the male disease of shortness like I do, you will seem that much shorter and perhaps even comical standing next to the towering, muscular Sven or his rap star look-alike buddy at the nightclub. Girls who would otherwise pick up a flirt in a grocery store isle will reject you in a heartbeat simply for failing to make that top 20% cut. The nightclub environment requires a thick skin for casual rejection if you happen to strike an average pose, to say the least.
There is no worse feeling than failing to pick up on a surprise flirting opportunity, thus blowing an absolutely perfect chance to meet a hot girl!
You’re at the corner Gas-N-Go doing some mindless chore when suddenly you find yourself face-to-face with a little cutie who’s gazing back at you with that glassy, wide-eyed look that all us guys with one track minds love to see. You smile and make some ridiculous remark about something totally pointless, but she lights up anyway and gives you a rockin’ return smile. You maybe even get a flash of that doe-eyed, “take me” look. Pre-occupied with the weighty decision of Cheesy Poofs vs. Raw Onion Crunchies however, you have no time to humor her along any further.
So after this brief but enlightening exchange of pleasantries you turn away and ignore her. You then spot the girl a few minutes later while up at the counter checking out, but now she won’t even look at you – or she gives you that quick “too bad” look and vanishes into the parking lot. A few minutes later while driving back home you think to yourself… “Geez, was that chick flirting with me or what?…”
A Little Self-Training Can Put an End to Your Struggles with Premature Ejaculation… Forever
For any of you guys out there who have been struggling with the miserable frustration of premature ejaculation or coming too fast in bed, there’s a self-training technique known as ‘premature edging’ which can retrain your reflexes to be more under your control to help you last longer in bed. Premature edging is all about learning to control yourself from climaxing until you consciously wish to, by learning how to recognize what stage of excitement your nervous system is experiencing and then correcting it before it’s too late. It’s an exercise in elevated mind-body awareness done specifically to control PE. Here’s how it’s done…