The High Status Male

Tell me, are you a man?

Are you a REAL man?

Then prove it! I’m tired of going out with guys that go up, say hi to a girl, start talking to her and then 5 minutes later they are back talking to me… Then I hear the same old excuse:

“I started talking to her and the conversation kinda just went flat. So I left…”

Did you get her number? No.

Did you ask her out? No.

Did you try to kiss her? No…

Then why the f*$# are you here talking to me? Go back and talk to her!

The Best Advice You’ve Never Heard…

Yes, I know you hear other people say the same thing. But for me, this advice was a defining point in my pick up success. Let me explain.

Most of the advice you hear has to do with inner game – like confidence building – or approaching. You spend most of time practicing and doing this. But none of this actually gets you laid!

Yes, I said it.

You can build your ego to the max and do one thousand approaches in one night. But what’s the actual result? In the end, all you did was practice approaching. So how do you get exposure to the rest of pick up process if you want to get anywhere. The only way you can do this is by staying there after you approached.

Don’t break the interaction unless she leaves or tells you leave!

And if she does – which is as rare as seeing as polar bear in the beach – leave politely. Don’t bad mouth her, swear at her… just go find your next group of girls to talk to. She’s the one missing out on you, so make sure she realizes that.

That’s what Make the Ho Say No is about. Stick through the interaction until the end. For instance:

• If she’s not into you, try to change that around—flirt with her.
• If there’s no energy between you—create some!
• If she’s bored, spice up the conversation—make it fun!

Which brings me to my next point…

The Art Of Talking… Is Listening!

The biggest reason guys wuss out is because they have nothing to say. And yes, if you leave the interaction before she rejects you, you wussed out, my man

If you have nothing to say, start listening and asking questions. Your goal here is to talk to her on the same level you talk to a friend. That interrogation pattern people follow when they meet someone is as boring as organizing your socks:

Where do you live? What do you do? Where did you… zzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz

I’m getting bored just writing this. Ask interesting stuff. What are your hobbies? What do you like doing? Have you watched Avatar? Do you think streaking should be illegal in Texas? Etc. Think of something interesting you would talk to your friends about and talk about it.

And when she answers, listen and build on it. For instance:

Normal conversation from a boring guy:

Him: What do you do?
Her: I work at a bank.
Him: Which one?
Her: XYZ Bank
Him: That’s really interesting. What do you do there?
Her: *Eye rolling*

Fun Conversation:

Him: We’ve been talking for 5 minutes and you never tell me what you do. For all I now you might be a serial killer.
Her: *Laughs* I work at a bank.
Him: Oh my god! You are the single most boring person I met in a decade…
Her: Shut up!
Him: Do you at least get to keep any of the money in there? I’d so ask you out if you do…
Her: *Laughs* No…
Him: Well, you’re the bank-girl with the best sense of humour I’ve ever met, so I will ask you out anyway.

Disclaimer: Any similarity to the actual conversation I had with a girl last Friday in the club is merely a coincidence.

So What Are You Gonna Do About It Now, Tough Guy?

Before I say anything else, let me make one thing clear for those with a dirty mind.

I am not telling you to force the girl to do anything. I don’t support that. If you think that staying around when the girl is not comfortable then you have to realize that you’re the one making excuses. If she wants you to leave, she’ll either leave or tell you to.

On the other hand, if you think you’re supposed to try and force a girl to kiss you – I seriously hope you get beat up by security.

I’m going to be dead honest with you: the reason you leave the interaction before anything happens has nothing to do with her. It’s your own fault for letting it go. You are running away because of your own insecurities. The only way to get over it and start dating the women you deserve is to push past the discomfort and stay there till the Ho says (Yes or) No!

So next time the conversation is dead or you feel like she doesn’t like you and your stomach is quivering, remember: retreat is not an option!

Best of luck,

John Lione
www.MeetingWomenSecrets.com