Losing my virginity
by Mike Pilinski on Dec.13, 2009, under Reader Q&A
Hi Mike,
What you are doing here is amazing, you’re giving us an opportunity to grow as men!
Let me introduce myself, I’m a tall man in my early 20’s and I weigh about 225. My problem is that I’ve never had a girlfriend and I’m still a virgin. I’m very shy — for some reason I can’t stand the idea of being alone with a woman. I think I have rejection phobia. A few years ago I was in line to lose my virginity I thought, but I couldn’t get it up! I think this experience made me even more afraid of women. I’d appreciate your help and advice.
Robert
Bob, the thing about sexual issues caused by excessive virginity is simply this: at some point it comes down to just getting the stink on you, no matter how you have to do it!
I recommend that guys like yourself who are so incredibly shy — and especially if their shyness is tied to sexual insecurity — should just go ahead and get an escort and do the deed already! Get all that nagging doubt about your sexual prowess out of your head so that you can understand “deep down” (unconscious mind) that you can perform with a woman.
Once you’ve been popped your male “vibe” will adjust itself to confirm this by making you more at ease around women, which improves your reactions FROM them and opens up opportunities to make a connection. A male virgin carries an invisible tag on him that women can pick up on it somehow. It usually provokes disinterest and makes them regard you as some kind of asexual creature — which makes the task of hooking up doubly difficult.
You are always being faced with having to take an enormous, paralyzing risk to meet anyone — and this is a really stressful way to live.
So get busy getting this issue cleared up for yourself and then take the steps necessary to get out there on the social field of play. Go take a look at my PUA Product Review pages. The top listing on each one are books that sit on my own personal bookshelf here at home, books that helped me overcome huge negative issues in my personality that were keeping me shy and unable to connect with women.
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