The High Status Male

Hi Mike,

I am primarily interested in finding one woman with whom I can have a really good relationship.  I am learning this stuff so that I can have a vast choice and not be like most of my friends that took the first woman that would be with them (they all seem so unhappy).

First some background: I have been in a bad rut since I went through a breakup about 5 years ago.  I needed a kick-start to get back into the game.  I am older now 42 and my self esteem was shot.  First I quit smoking, took up Karate, lost 30 pounds and got a good haircut.  Confidence went up but still no real luck.  Then I found “THE BOOKS” I combined some Double Your Dating System (book) and Seduction Science System and Speed Seduction stuff all together and now I am getting dates – as many as I want.

(Side Note: By the way, your stuff is the best and your “High Status Male” concept changes everything for me – it is incredible.  Scored 200 on the test but my failures were 2s and they were things that were destroying everything – thanks for showing me the truth.)

Back to my point… Anyway I still make mistakes but thats okay, I am learning.  Thing is, all these women that go out with me are interested (even when I screw up sometimes) BUT I am not always so interested in them, and that’s my problem. I want to date them, have fun and be honest with them but I do not want to hurt anyone. So, the problem is I just don’t know how to end things when I want to – especially if I sleep with them.

I was never really afraid of rejection — it doesn’t phase me, but I think that this fear of how to reject them is just as toxic.  I find myself discussing “exit clauses” (figuratively speaking) on the first date quite often.  I can’t turn them all into friends either – I just don’t have that much time.  You know how it is – once you sleep with them leaving is impossible.  So help me out with some advice please if you can and most sincerely thanks very much for the great book.

Thanks,

Sal

Hi Sal,

It sounds like you have a great deal of empathy for the feelings of women, which is great to see, but it’s also unusual.  A lot of guys are just focused on getting their own needs taken care of, so lots of women will be smitten by this endearing character trait.  This red flags you a potential heartbreaker. I can see your problem.

DO NOT however, let your concern about the emotional pain that you may have to cause in the future mess up the way that you operate with women, or keep you from taking the steps you must take in order to get what you want from them.  BOTH parties, man and woman, take an *equal* risk in the love and romance game — and if the women want to play, then they have to be willing to take a shot in the heart now and then just like the guys do.  Otherwise stay off the field of combat!

It is not YOUR job to insure that a woman will not experience any trauma from a romantic encounter with you.  As long as you remain completely honest about your intentions along the way and are not being deliberately devious, you have nothing to apologize about. If you’re being dishonest and manipulative just to get your jollies, well that’s a different story… but that doesn’t sound like you, so it’s really not an issue in your case.

If you’re up front about everything and make no promises that you know you ultimately won’t be able to keep, then you have nothing to feel ashamed about if things ultimately finish on a sour note.  That’s the risk SHE takes.  And don’t let her “guilt” you for it… that’s HER being manipulative and it’s totally unfair.

People have to be adults about failed relationships — pick up the pieces, deal with the bruised emotions and move on.  You and me didn’t make up the rules for this game — we just do our best to play it fair.  And that’s all anyone can ask for.