Dealing with a phone blow off
by Mike Pilinski on Dec.07, 2009, under Reader Q&A
Hello Mike,
I’d like to ask your advice on how to deal with the embarrassment of when you ask a woman for her phone number and she says no, then you see her again and there’s an unpleasant tension that wasn’t there before.
Thanks in advance
Jake
Hi Jake,
There’s only one good way to handle this kind of softball rejection and that’s to roll right over it like it never happened. Act NO differently towards her than you did before. Remember, an HSM never apologizes for his desires as a man. Act friendly and happy and normal. It’s no big deal. You ask women out all the time… (this is the attitude you want to project)… so what? Sometimes you can’t even recall which ones you asked or not!
The worse thing that you can do is go into a pout… this is classic LSM behavior that will only convince her that she made the right decision to turn you down in the first place. If you go the HSM route instead, it won’t be long before she begins to think just the opposite — that maybe she made a mistake! Then she’ll start flirting with you again. Accept her “penance” with good humor and consider giving her a second chance if she “begs” for it with more intense flirting and body language than usual.
Listen… a rejection, if played properly, actually provides you with the perfect opportunity to separate yourself from the typical hang-dog shmucks that women are used to blowing off, by reacting in a way that demonstrates that you are an HSM instead. Lo & behold… NOW they’re interested!
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