The High Status Male

Hi Mike,

I just downloaded your free report “The Three Keys to Seducing Any Woman”.  Overall the Course was excellent, EXCEPT for the very last section entitled “Manage Your Horniness Instead of Letting It Manage You“. I think you made a huge error in this section!!!! I hope you rewrite the section, because it is very bad advice that flies in the face of the advice given by every book/source on seduction that I have ever studied (i.e. Ross Jeffries “Equalizer”, to state just one example, where he recommends adjusting your horniness to a minimum level when you first meet a woman).

In my opinion, the alpha male is always getting laid.  Thus, when he is out with a group of guys he will typically be the least horniest of the group (i.e.. because he is getting laid and knows he can get laid any time he wants).  Hot women pick up on this because hot women don’t want guys who are too needy.  They want a guy who is “validated” (i.e.. already getting laid by a woman).  Do you see what I’m saying?  A guy who gets laid a lot won’t be as horny as a guy who never gets laid…

A horny guy is needy.  That is a MAJOR turn off to a beautiful woman.  I chat with a beautiful woman online and I’m good friends with her (she lives too far away to pursue, so I just practice my material on her).  One of her quotes is that “it is easy to catch the eye of a horny guy”.  I memorized this quote because it spoke volumes of the mind set of a beautiful woman.  She thinks very little of the typical horny guys that she meets every day.

Watch a James Bond movie.  James Bond is NEVER horny or lusts over a woman.   He is cool.  Being horny is un-cool.

Lastly, most of my “single and looking” buddies never get laid by HOT women.  That is because they are horny and thus willing to settle for unattractive/fat women just to get their rocks off.  I WOULD never go for a unattractive/fat woman! In my opinion, taking care of the situation manually is preferable to sleeping with a woman that is not my type.

George

Hi George,

Perhaps I didn’t make it clear enough that there’s a “good” horny and a “bad” horny in the 3 Keys Mini-Course.  You do have a good point about some horny guys being too desperate to get laid.  But it’s not really their horniness that’s turning women off, it’s their emotional neediness (a major LSM red-flag).

There are actually 2 types of “sexually laid back” guys that you need to distinguish between.  The first guy is getting lots of trim.  His success makes him mellow around women because, in addition to being sexually fulfilled, he’s emotionally satisfied by his relationships with them.  This is a very attractive quality to project around other women.  However, he possesses a high motivation to chase after those women (and this is important) because he still needs their real, live, hot little bodies for his sexual fulfillment. You see, his primary motivator is SEX DRIVE, not fear… so his success with women, while making him mellow, still leaves him driven to continue meeting and mating.  He’s actually quite horny most of the time — but his horniness is based on real world interactions with women (rather than deprivation of them) and therefore it is perceived as being cool.

The 2nd guy is also mellow, but that’s because his “mega-wackin’ lifestyle” has pretty much drained away most of his sex drive, plain and simple.  He seems horny — although truthfully he’s not craving sex with real women at all (he’s too scared).  Instead, what he’s really after is emotional satisfaction, because no amount of wackin’ can provide what a real woman does for a man in this regard.  Because his sex drive is always so low, however, his primary core motivator is FEAR — and that acts to block his ability to move on real women.  This doesn’t actually matter to him though — because he only requires some really good fantasy material to fulfill his primary sexual-masturbation needs anyway, not actual flesh and blood women (although he doesn’t always realize this).  He can get this just by staying “close enough” to hot women (at school or at work, hanging out platonically with his buddy’s girlfriends, at strip clubs, etc.) to keep his porno fantasies fueled.

Low sex drive, high fear, and no need for a real woman in his life (at least not to achieve sexual fulfillment, anyway).  Hey, it’s a wonderful nerd’s life! The only thing really missing from the LSM’s universe is the emotional satisfaction provided by a real woman.  And yet this is what he soon finds himself most desperate for… but this missing element becomes a huge turnoff because the typical socially-inept behaviors that usually accompany this kind of lifestyle scream out that women are a scarcity in his life.

If he could only get rid of that damn need… why, the LSM would be in hog heaven.  But he can’t.  And the fact that he can’t is why he’s seen as being needy, and thus unattractive to women — not merely because he’s “horny”.

You don’t have to go completely celibate or anything to make this kind of fundamental change in your success with women, that would be counter-productive in the other direction.  Just trim back your “wackin’ workload” a little and begin to experience a greater surge of your positive male lifeforce.