Dealing with flakey bitches
by Mike Pilinski on Dec.06, 2009, under Reader Q&A
Mike,
I am reading your book for the second time to really let it sink in. I have a question for you…how do you handle the flaky bitch who won’t return your calls? You get her phone number, talk to her for a few minutes on the phone… she seems to dig you, every thing seems great. She wants to meet next week, her schedule is clear. Then you call back repeatedly only to get her voice mail and she never calls you back! Do you leave a nasty message about how she’s wasting your time, or just blow it off, or what? I find that many women seem to be doing this to me. What the fuck’s going on?
Jimmy
Hi Jimmy,
Here’s the deal with phone calls… make sure that on your first call back to a chick you spend some time “re-selling” yourself, since the initial impression that you made on her in order to originally get the number has likely begun to fade somewhat depending on the time interval involved. Getting that first date is really a split operation that requires TWO good impressions — the first one where you got the #, and then a second one when you make that first call. Get her sparked up a bit, tease, use some innuendo, be somewhat mysterious and hard to figure out, get her laughing, etc. In a nutshell… remind her of why she should be excited to want to see you again!
That’s when you strike and ask for the date or get together… at the peak of all these good vibes!
I believe that a woman makes her final decision whether or not to hook up with you based on these two combined impressions. If that second phone call falls flat, she’s probably going to reject you because the energy seems missing now. But women, being the cowards they normally are, rarely will blow you off directly. They just starve you of further contact by playing the roommate-screening, answering machine-voicemail game in hopes that you’ll go away after a few failed attempts to get in touch with her again.
Guys get off on the anticipation of having sex with a new girl they have on the line regardless of her personality or character — but women want to feel some emotional connection right away or they’re simply not interested. The thought of merely having sex with some guy who’s on their tail does nothing for them. They need to feel buzzed about that guy, and your job is to create that personalized buzz.
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December 31st, 2009 on 8:42 pm
Here’s a tip: stop calling women “flakey bitches” and you might have more luck. If you consider women as nothing more than poon or a substitute for your own hand you are not going to get far – strangely enough even flakey bitches can detect a PUA 30 metres away.