The importance of humor
by Mike Pilinski on Nov.30, 2009, under Reader Q&A
Hi Mike,
About having a “clever wit”… would you describe humor as an essential, indispensable element in the game of seduction, or just something that could be helpful? I ask this because I’m usually pretty damn funny around my male friends, but I have the sense that chicks respond to a different kind of humor, one that I am not skilled at. As a result, when I’m with a girl and we’re having fun, I usually freeze-up and have a hard time finding something funny to say.
Thanks,
Ben
Hi Ben
Humor is a signal of a “normal” person who seems socially at ease and comfortable with himself and the people around him. That’s the sort of “status marker” effect it communicates to women anyway. Ever notice how truly psycho personalities never smile or laugh (except when something bad happens to someone else), and are always scowling and miserable?
That’s why you want to always demonstrate a sense of humor — without acting like a complete clown, of course. What sort of humor do you practice around your male buddies? Women are drawn to humor based on the clever observation of the absurd in the form of a comment that exposes the ordinary in a unique way that’s funny and draws a giggle. You don’t have to go crazy with humor, but you do need a touch of it here and there to keep things from getting too tense. It’s hard to “teach” humor on a written page. Watch as many old Seinfeld re-runs as you can and study how this guy handles absurdist humor. This is good training for you. At the very least the contrast between his type of humor and your own may reveal where you’re going wrong. Adjust accordingly.
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