The High Status Male

Hi Mike!

I bought your book a little while ago and it has really opened my eyes and helped me to speed up the process of self-discovery greatly.   I understand a lot more about myself and how I relate to others because of you.   Anyway, I looked for this topic on the Q&A section of your site, but didn’t see it covered… so with that I have to ask: from your experience and knowledge, what can a short guy do to make his height less of an issue?   I just hear so much about how important height is to women, and it makes me so totally insecure at my height ( 5′ 6″) that it shakes my confidence immensely.   Any advice you have to give me would be so greatly appreciated.

Jimmy

Hi Jim,

Height is a bitch of a problem for a man, I won’t lie to you.   I’m 5′ 6″ myself and I always thought that my life would’ve been entirely different (and a lot better) for the want of another 4 or 5 inches of stupid leg bone.   A $2 chunk of goddamn calcium and the flesh to go around it!   But what the hell can you do about how tall your genetics will allow you to grow?   This is one problem that has no medical or cosmetic cure, and you’re right, it does affect how people come to regard you and relate to you… and for a man, it’s usually not very good.   Taller guys just sort of subliminally consider themselves to be better and more powerful or whatever, than shorter guys.   It must be the whole looking up vs. looking down thing that does it. Completely psychological no doubt, but real nonetheless.

I ultimately came to deal with my height by using a mental trick that goes something like this… imagine a guy 6 foot tall who was horribly burned and facially disfigured.   No one can stand to even look at him.   If doctors told this guy that he could have his face back to normal BUT that he would have to lose six inches in height in the process and be 5′ 6″ for the rest of his life (maybe by using some genetic reconfiguration machine?), do you think he’d go for it?   In a heartbeat, I would guess.   In other words, any guy would gladly trade having a normal face again, one that people wouldn’t run away from on sight, for the loss of a little height.   He would be ecstatic.   Somehow, someway, you’ve got to convince your unconscious mind that, like this burned up guy, there are a lot worse ways to become a social outcast… and that it simply isn’t so bad to be short.

You just have to put your height challenge into perspective and realize that it can only affect your life to the extent which you allow it to.   Always remember that you have control over how people react to you by the expression of your personality and life force, and physical stature can’t change that.

Hey… take a look at the photo below of little 2′ 8″ Verne Troyer (”Mini-Me”, Dr. Evil’s sidekick from the Austin Powers movies) and his ex-wife the 6′ 2″ smokin’ hot chick Genevieve Gallen!   That’s right, his ex-wife.   He dumped her three weeks after they were married!!! This little dude hangs out at the Playboy mansion with Hef and all his centerfolds — you see him pop up constantly in the photo gallery they publish every month in the front of the magazine, trumpeting all those parties they’re constantly throwing over there with tons of Hollywood celebrities.   This guy turned his Munchkin status into a movie / TV career, and he’s scoring with Playboy 10’s now!!   High.  Status.  Male.   That’s why.   Even at 2 foot eight.   Women flock like honey-starved bees to the HSM — they just can’t seem to help themselves for some reason.

Until the day comes that they can “cure” shortness with some kind of genetic manipulation, this is all we can do… think the problem into insignificance like Mini-Me did, and go on with your life as if it didn’t matter.   I know it still does, but you’ve got to “forget” that fact and learn to act as though you’re 6 foot tall anyway.   If you believe it, so will the women.

Mini-Me actor Verne Troyer is taking marriage to the max!

According to Britain’s Sky News, the 2-foot-8 “Austin Powers” film star is engaged to a model who’s more than twice his size.  His fiancee, 6-foot-2 Genevieve Gallen, is a yoga instructor and model.  Troyer and Gallen have been dating for a year, beginning soon after meeting each other at a New Year’s Party in Beverly Hills in 2000.

Here’s another shot of her from the Howard Stern Show :