The High Status Male

There is this girl at my school, she is very hot and has a spunky fun loving attitude.  The very first time I saw her though I acted very immature, needy, and clingy. I started writing letters to her asking for more of her attention.  Soon, I realized that this was completely suicidal!   Last year I began to become more mature, and she started to ease up on the bitch shield somewhat.   Now I’m able to talk to her just fine and sometimes even make her laugh.  I have three questions…

First, there is this other guy who she is always hanging around with and who I think is a pretty good friend of hers.   Although you wouldn’t know it at first glance (because he looks like your average nerd) he seems to trump me in all the crucial places.   He is way wittier than I am and better with the physical contact and body language.  He’s in every class that I have with her, so she often pays more attention to him than me.  How do I compete against this guy?

Second, is it possible to move this relationship any further, even after the fact that she’s known me for more than 3 years and during that time I did some really stupid shit?

Third, supposing that I could make her mine, there is one big problem in the way.  She already has a boyfriend, a guy who knows how to show her excellent sex and who is by far the most confident, cocky, alpha-male guy that I have ever known.   He embodies the ‘bad boy’ persona, can make anyone laugh, can belittle even the most confident of men, and if angered, can be an extremely dangerous dude to try and fight.   Luckily, he doesn’t go to my school anymore because he graduated, but this girl is still crazy about him.   So, again, supposing there was a way that I could make her mine, how would I go about both dismantling her from him and dealing with him if we ever had a confrontation?

Greg

Hi Greg,

Sheesh, this is pretty much a lost cause and I’ll tell you why… almost everything to do with scoring women hinges on the first impression, and yours was not only bad it was bad and lengthy.  Whenever you find that you’ve dug yourself a deep hole, the first rule is always to STOP DIGGING!   If you fuck up and make a really bad first, un-romantic impression on a woman, and then dig the hole even deeper like you did with all that clingy shit, you’re double dead from that point on.  If she files you away in the loser category then that’s where you tend to stay, and the passage of time does little to help the situation.

It’s all about that initial snap of chemistry, and if she doesn’t feel it you’re not going to be feeling anything either!

You need to compete with other men by doing what I talk about all throughout the book by doing those things that make you more attractive to women.   At your age, male status is mostly about athletic power and the ability to intimidate other men into respecting you.   As you get older, you can improve your status by acquiring money and position / authority in society.   For now, this is a great lesson in how NOT to present yourself to a woman.   These other guys were able to do it in a way that got her thinking about them in sexy-romantic ways.   The way you did it was just the opposite and the effect lingered on.

Guys tend to forgive and forget over the course of time and grant second chances — women remember everything like it just happened yesterday.  Even if you did improve your game and presentation to her 1000% (which should be your goal), you will always be that nerd who acted like an asshole — and she won’t be badgered or tricked into feeling any other way about you.   I know this sucks to hear, but if I don’t tell you who will?   You’re young, there are tons of women still out there for you. Obsessing makes you look weak… because the HSM has an abundance of women in his life, right?   This is the attitude you need to adopt, even if you’re not there yet.   You can bet her “bad boy” boyfriend gives off this vibe!

Pull the lesson out of this deal and move forward — your future success will ultimately be your best revenge.  I fucked the duck with about 3 different girls just like this when I was in HS and was never able to recover from it.  To this day they still probably think I’m a fool!

My victory is that I don’t give a shit anymore.  I moved on and created newer, better memories with new women, and those others have faded away into the haze of history.  Time for you now to dump the past and move forward with a clean slate as well.