The High Status Male

Mike…

Before reading your book I had already read stuff by Maniac High and Ross Jeffries, so I’m not totally clueless about courtship.  I’m fairly good looking and am confident enough to talk to girls.  I have had luck going on “dates” with girls multiple times, but never knew about escalating until I read your book.

Now about this particular girl I have an interest in… she lives in the same boarding house as me (I’m on the first floor, she’s on the fourth), is about 5 years older than me and is very attractive.  I haven’t had a chance to try the post-fuck visual on her yet, but I’ve made good impressions on her so far as an HSM and never said anything to look like an LSM.  I’ve only met her a handful of times however.  She has given me what I think are go signals before, but I’m lost at how to approach her.  This is where the problem comes in.

She is a very busy person, so I almost never see her despite the fact that she lives here.  When I do see her, it’s in the kitchen on the third floor where most of the students eat.  When the rare moment arrives that I get to actually eat dinner with her, there are usually others at the table.  I can’t start my flirt because there are too many people around that interrupt.  Even if I did have a chance to flirt with her at dinner, I think it would be awkward for me to do it in front of the other people who we live with.  That raises another issue… I’ve pretty much overcome rejection, but that’s because I don’t usually ever have to see the girl that rejected me ever again.  In this case if this girl rejects me, I will see her again and again at dinner time to remind me what a horrible failure I was.

I just want to know how I should go about doing this.  If she was some girl I met at the library, I wouldn’t hesitate to go up to her and get her number, but she lives in my boarding house.  I guess my biggest fear is looking like an ass in front of everyone.  If I could just talk with her alone at a coffee shop for an hour I know I have an excellent chance of wooing her.  I can’t knock on her door at random and ask her nor can I do it during dinner time.  How should I approach her?

Gary

Hi Gary,

If you don’t want to ask her out in front of others, then you’ll just have to think up some plan to break her away from the crowd for a moment or two.  Maybe using a buddy can help somehow?  Time to use your ingenuity here, that’s what I mean by the ability to think on your feet (all seducers must find a way to isolate their prey).

Here’s what’s really important though, never feel horrible about a rejection IF you did everything that you could to keep things classy and proper on your end of the deal.  No HSM ever apologizes for his desires as a man… there is nothing to be embarrassed or ashamed of (as long as you don’t fly off the handle and act like a complete asshole).  If she doesn’t respond and rejects you, the HSM way is to just roll over this crap like it never happened. Don’t pout, get pissed, ignore her, or engage in any other type of LSM behavior — or it will only confirm that she made the right call by blowing you off in the first place.  What you want to do is be gracious and continue to interact with her in order to paint just the OPPOSITE picture of yourself, and make her regret having rejected you!

Now, watch for her to begin signaling that she wants a second chance.  When you get that kind of action, you’re in control of the situation again and on much safer ground with her.  Act fast (passions slip away quickly if un-fanned) and you should be able to get a smoking date with her.  You’ve already demonstrated your interest, and now she’s had time by herself to mull it over. Women are famous for changing their minds.

You have to act like none of this is any big deal to you because you do this stuff all the time. Misfires are just temporary setbacks — not life-destroying events that shatter your confidence and insure more of the same in the future.  That’s the type of HSM attitude that you always want to carry with you for all your life.  Nurturing this attitude is more important than any single event of approach/rejection.