Girl wants nice guy boyfriend to man up
by Mike Pilinski on Nov.30, 2009, under Reader Q&A
My guy is a “nice guy” and I don’t have much sexual chemistry towards him because of this. I am looking for something that can turn this around. I wish more than anything to feel a sexual pull towards him the way I’ve had about other men in my past.
Can this stuff in your book work for a couple? Or is it just for the single guy? Can this problem be turned around after the fact? After a break in our relationship (1 month), we got together again and the chemistry was there! But after one week it was gone again. This happened twice. He has no problem, it’s me that doesn’t feel the chemistry towards him.
Please help!!!
(some anonymous girl)
Hi there,
The reason you’re not attracted to your nice guy boyfriend is because “nice” behavior is a powerful signal of LOW male status (I explain why in great detail in my book, but it has to do with the appearance of submissiveness, which is a female characteristic, not a male one). As a woman, you have an unconscious instinct that turns you on sexually/romantically whenever you find yourself in the presence of a HIGH status male (or one that gives off the signals and attitudes of one) — whereas you are left cold and without any romantic feelings whatsoever for an LSM. You can’t help it — just like guys can’t help being attracted to hot looking women while being turned off by big fat ones. This attraction sensation is what you’re describing as “chemistry” and is highly biological and beyond the limits of reason. That’s why it causes such conflict to your rational thinking mind.
This is exactly what my book tries to address, as guys who exhibit this type of behavior are forever failing to ignite the passions of women such as yourself and therefore can’t get laid, find a girlfriend, etc.
The only problem (in your particular case) is that the guy usually has to recognize this problem on his own and become motivated to read a book such as mine and make the necessary changes in himself. If he doesn’t feel there’s anything wrong with him, then it probably won’t be possible to get him to sit down and read my book, even if you buy it for him as a gift. You can lead a horse to water… you know what I mean?
Print out some pages from the website and show it to him. See what he thinks. Maybe it’ll trigger a frank discussion that could be as helpful as having him read the book.
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February 10th, 2010 on 6:00 pm
It sounds like you?re creating problems yourself by trying to solve this issue instead of looking at why their is a problem in the first place…