Can gifts compensate for no personality?
by Mike Pilinski on Nov.30, 2009, under Reader Q&A
I have a shy personality, lack communication skills and don’t have much sense of humor… shouldn’t I be doing something like buying a woman gifts to give her a reason to be with me?
Your fan,
Raymo
Hi Raymo,
Buying stuff for women isn’t going to compensate for all those qualities that you believe you’re lacking. Women are only thrilled to receive gifts from those men that are already beginning to make an emotional connection with them. Conversely… they resist accepting gifts from guys who haven’t begun to make any sort of connection yet. In fact, they are made uncomfortable by this kind of behavior because they understand the guy is just trying to “force” her into liking to him. This usually makes them want to avoid you in the future, since you have made them feel somewhat obligated by your gift (If they actually decided to accept it).
In a nutshell, women hate getting gifts from guys who haven’t ignited a spark in them with their words and actions first. It’s big time LSM behavior.
Giving gifts (a dowry) to obtain women is how a man used to buy another man’s daughter from him in the past when he needed a wife. That’s back 100’s of years ago when women were bought and sold as chattel. Our job as men is far tougher today because we have to make a sales presentation with “us” as the product! This is romantic courting… it’s how it’s done nowadays. The journey forces us to come out on the other end far stronger mentally and spiritually than our wife-buying forefathers could’ve ever dreamed possible.
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