The Most Effective Online Dating Approach
by DLamont on Mar.28, 2013, under Reader Q&A
- Article by Derek Lamont. For more information, check out this free video presentation by him on how to pick up girls online.
How To Look & Act Like A Confident Alpha Male
by DLamont on Dec.29, 2012, under Reader Q&A
#1: Use body language and posture to your advantage.
Body language and posture is typically a completely subconscious phenomenon. You don’t think about how you’re sitting in a chair or how your shoulders are moving when you walk through the grocery store. But while you may not be thinking about these things, other people are also subconsciously evaluating your body language and forming opinions about you before you even say ‘hello’.
Body posture is more than just sitting up straight. It means standing tall, with your stomach in (but not in an unnatural way, of course) and your chest out (again, don’t over-exaggerate this). Try not to slump down when you’re sitting in a chair, and keep any excess flab from naturally flowing out over your belt line.
Your shoulders should be back slightly, and your head should be straight up and not looking down to the floor. Many people have a subconscious slump that makes them look shorter than they actually are, and can convey a sense of awkwardness (think Quasimodo). This is a big no-no because it sends strong messages of timidness and self-doubt.
Alpha males (and yes, you do want to appear as though you’re a bonafide alpha male!) walk with their heads held high, their shoulders back, and they’re not afraid to make eye contact. They speak clearly and enunciate their words, making sure their words come across with a sense of authority.
Don’t go overboard with the body posture and alpha male speaking habits... this can actually end up making you look like a total meathead. But if you just make subtle changes to the way you walk, talk, and position your body, you can make a huge difference to the way people perceive you.
#2: Convey confidence through your clothing and fashion choices.
People who are self-confident don’t need to seek approval from others. They’re not afraid to buck the trend or do something different. Self-confidence often translates to being a leader in some way or another.
An easy way to subtly show off your total disregard for the opinions of others (again, an alpha male characteristic that demonstrates confidence) is to choose a clothing style that is edgy or different.
Let’s get one thing straight: you don’t want to wear a yellow jumpsuit and a cowboy hat to your job interview. This isn’t about looking ridiculous or putting on a show for the world to see... it’s about choosing clothes that others might not buy because they’re worried they “can’t pull it off” or that others will question their sense of fashion.
You’ll need to be careful with this one, because choosing the wrong clothes can look downright awful. The trick is to find clothes that are both socially acceptable but also stylish and unique. You may already know someone with a strong sense of style that uses this technique effectively to convey a sense of leadership and self-confidence.
Next time you walk into a trendy clothing store and think to yourself, “I don’t think I would look good in that,” try it on anyway. Don’t question your ability to dress in a given way or wear certain edgy accessories.... just try on a bunch of things you wouldn’t normally ever consider wearing, and buy a few of them each time you go on a clothes shopping spree.
Again, keep in mind that these two strategies I just described aren’t going to make a huge difference to your overall image... but they can drastically change the way others subconsciously evaluate you based on the way you look and act. And, if applied properly, these two techniques can help you convey a much stronger sense of confidence and self-esteem -- both of which happen to be qualities that women find extremely appealing.- About The Author: Mark Belmont is a style consultant, dating author, and an editor at the LoveLearnings Relationship & Dating Advice Blog. His latest article examines some things you can do to be more attractive.
PHYSICAL ESCALATION: HOW AND WHEN?
by SteveK on Jun.25, 2012, under Guest Bloggers
PHYSICAL ESCALATION: HOW AND WHEN?
By: Ask Women Dating Advice This is a major sticking point for most guys when it comes to meeting and dating women. We already have friends to talk to. We're looking for girls to experience an emotional, and most definitely a physical, connection with. You'll hear a lot about “kino” and physical escalation, but instead of looking at it like some kind of equation, how can you come off natural instead of like a predator? The way you approach physical contact makes all the difference. DON'T EXPECT ANYTHING OUT OF IT This is counter intuitive to most guys; of course you're expecting something out of it! Why the hell else are you out there trying to meet women? But here's the hang up; women don't want to be your prey. Guys in the seduction community often refer to the women they're after as their 'target'. Can you think of any mentality that could possibly be less appealing to a woman? So don't even worry about your 'target'. Make sure, first and foremost, you're enjoying yourself. If you just start out knowing you're going to get out there, relax, and have a really fun night no matter who you talk to and how they respond to you, you've already won half the battle and you're putting on a very attractive persona. People will want to be a part of that care free demeanor, especially women. BRING THE RIGHT ATTITUDE You're out there meeting women for yourself. Think about what kind of experience you want to have. The kind of person who would also like that experience will be naturally drawn to you based on your attitude and the way you express that attitude. You're trying to meet girls who are into your vibe. If you're being as natural and open as you can, what's not to love? If a girl you meet seems uncomfortable about anything you say or do, don't let it make YOU uncomfortable. You're still comfortable, because you're being who you are, and who you are isn't based upon someone else's opinion of you. You're always comfortable, because you're you. If she's not comfortable with you being who you are when you're comfortable, you may be talking to the wrong girl. She honestly just might not be emotionally mature enough to handle a confident man. Politely excuse yourself and move on to a girl who you can talk to. Either she just wasn't into you and you're saving both of you time, or seeing you play it cool and move on will leave her to think about how she screwed up a potentially good thing and maybe she'll try to redeem herself later. COMFORT IS GOOD, TOO COMFORTABLE IS BORING Once she warms up to you, push her comfort level, just a little. Get her interacting with you beyond just conversation; a game of sorts (pool is a good one for a bar), switch it up to a new venue, swap embarrassing stories, whatever it may be. Prod her in a fun way to go out on a little limb, and reward her for it when she does. Help her to see that you're comfortable with her under a variety of circumstances, and she'll reflect that comfort back to you. She needs to see that you're being yourself around her, and that you will accept her enough to let her relax and be herself around you. TESTING PHYSICAL BOUNDARIES Something as simple as a light brush of her arm, briefly putting your arm around her waist, placing your hand on the small of her back or taking her hand to lead her somewhere can give you a wealth of feedback about where a girl stands with you. Don't start this kind of physical interaction with that look you used to wear on your face when you would get into the cookie jar when you were a kid. Do these things completely naturally. If this somehow makes her uncomfortable, just look at her like she's being childish. She's reading too far into things. This is second nature to you; this is what you do and this is just how you are. If it's natural, she'll be far more likely to go with the flow. And if she is into it, just keep it progressing naturally. You have to understand, most women are hard-wired to follow the lead of men; they're waiting for a cue from YOU. You're not in a rush and this isn't the only girl you'll ever meet. These girls just want to know you see them as human beings first and foremost. You don't tell them this, they know it by the way you act. When you look at them and they know that you're seeing a person instead of a target, a mark, or prey, they can trust your lead, even physically and sexually. If you want to experience where getting your seduction skills up to par can take you, check out our free newsletter full of videos and pictures. They are literally jam packed with everything you need, in step by step detail, with dating advice for attracting the most beautiful women you find. Check them out. Regards, The Gals at Ask Women Dating Advice http://askwomendatingadvice.com/
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Want your ex-girlfriend back? One of the easiest ways you can win her back is by using your cell phone and tapping on a bunch of buttons. Sound absurd? Well it isn't... I've coached thousands of men around the world to effectively text their exes back into their bed even if they initially thought that it was impossible. Today, I’m about to give you some tips on how you can force your girlfriend to come running back to you (and no, she’I'll definitely have absolutely no choice in the matter).
Ready?
This is the first text you can send to get started (but don’t send these text messages yet. At the end of the post, I’I'll tell you exactly when to send these text messages because when you send these messages is just as important as what you send).
Text #1 – The "I'm Ok" Text Message:
-- "Hey _____, I just want to let you know that I’m 100% cool with the breakup and I thought that it was a good idea. Hope we can still be friends. Talk soon." --
This text is great because it conveys all the right messages. For one, you're letting her know that you were 100% okay with the breakup (you need to make her think this right now). By saying this you're pretty much saying to her that you don't really need her, and this will subconsciously drive her insane. By posing as 'just a friend' right now, you start planting my patented Seduction Seeds that will eventually cause her to start thinking about you in a sexual way again. More on this in a bit.
Text #2 – The "No Communication" text:
-- "You're right. It's best that we shouldn't talk right now but I would like to be friends eventually." --
This one is a little advanced and you need to know exactly when to send this text, but again, you’re communicating to her that you don't really need to talk to her. In essence, you're saying that you don't really need her in your reality anymore. By doing this, you’I'll send a message that you want to move on and you’I'll begin tricking her into thinking that she actually lost you!
Text #3 – The "Jealousy" text:
-- "I think it was a great idea that we decided to start dating other people. I do just want to be friends right now!" --
By saying this, you're telling her that you're actually dating other people right now which will make her jealous. This is a good thing. By saying this, you're sub-communicating to her that you're actually desired by other women. Remember, women are attracted to men who are wanted by other women, so by saying that you're dating around you're pretty much saying that "it’s your loss!"
Remember, you can’t just simply send these texts to her and expect good results… you need to have a plan of attack and send these messages right when she’s most likely to take them seriously -- only then will she begin to feel attraction for you and induce a "fear of loss" within her.
In the free video below, I'll show you exactly what you can do to make your ex girlfriend want you back again. Whether you just want a night of hot sex, or you actually want to get back with her permanently, just watch the short video and I'll show you how you can get your ex-girlfriend back into your arms!

